Yes, that really happened...

...because it's broken.  Fractured.  Past the point of repair.  Perhaps the foundation was cracked from the start or maybe the effort was one-sided.
 
Before I continue, I should explain that what you're about to read will not be what is expected of me, blog-wise.  You'll want to laugh at the men that can't possibly be real and situations that would never happen in real life (but they are real and they do, oh.. they do).  Rest assured that those posts will continue, but this one is quite different.

Anyway, back to break ups.  They suck for both parties, but the most important thing to remember is that there is no more relationship.  That sentence in itself is very difficult to swallow.  You'll want to analyze everything that was said and done but in the end you must know that nothing will change.  Why waste time trying to understand or fix something that has already been declared broken?

Some important things to remember:

• There's no doubt about it-breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It's over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is.
  
• Anyone who assesses you or your relationship as "disposable" is not worthy of your time or tears.
  
• Just remember, though, that any reasons you come up with are ultimately irrelevant. The harsh reality is that even if you have EVERYTHING else in common, the one thing you don't have in common is the belief that this relationship can work. & that alone trumps your shared love of puppies, The Dave Matthews Band, and Mexican food.
  
• Awesome thought: The annoying thing that your ex did will never bother you again. I'm sure that your plan to get him back worked out in your head. I'm even sure that it worked out in some movie you saw. But your ex does not have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn't either. Move on. 
  
• So many of us find ourselves saying "BUT HE WAS SO GREAT!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did.