I'm a twenty-something serial dater who's had my fair share of relationship encounters that aren't always desirable, but often make for interesting stories!
After someone lets go in a relationship, why are some of us entangled in the thought of refusing to let go? What's the primal urge in that? Why do some of us fight for something that's already lost? Any comments would be appreciated :)
Maybe we see something we never saw before. We don't want to let go of that, because we're afraid of never finding it again. We continue to fight whether we believe its lost or not because maybe reality can't sink in due to our faith in "never know what the future holds"
I think that it's harder if we are the ones that haven't let go. Nobody wants to be told that you are not good enough anymore. After a lot of research take comfort in the fact that your pain will last a few months maybe a year and the feelings that you are experiencing are a chemical loss in the brain. Like giving up chocolate. It hurts for a long time but then you begin to forget what it tasted like and it bocomes a sweet memory.
I think we like the challenge, most times that I "haven't let go" it was more out of pride or the challenge, cuz when I really sat down and thought about it... there was nothing to fight for... or in those rare occasions that you win, and get back together, you soon realize exactly why you were not together in the first place.
We continue to fight whether we believe its lost or not because maybe reality can't sink in due to our faith in "never know what the future holds"